10 powerful relationship mantras – free e-booklet

Would you like a simple technique that has the power to not only improve your relationship with your partner and loved ones, but also strengthen your self-esteem and wellbeing?

Then this free e-booklet containing 10 life-changing mantras is for you.

What is a mantra?

A mantra is a phrase or word that is repeated regularly to focus the mind. It states a belief and can be used like an affirmation – a positive, loving inner voice that helps to prevent negative self-talk.

We all have a “monkey mind” that jumps from one thought to another and sometimes feels like it’s racing at 100 mph. A mantra is a great way to calm the mind down.

An illustrated e-booklet of especially-chosen relationship mantras

In our busy lives (and monkey minds), we can often lose sight of the things that matter most – our relationships with our loved ones, and ourselves.

I wanted a simple and effective way to re-centre myself and remember how important my relationships are to me, as well as strengthen my self-esteem.

Heartfulness meditation helps me a lot, but I also wanted something I could do anywhere and quickly. So, I set about writing down and using some mantras.

The mantras in this e-booklet are my top 10 personal favourites and, in my opinion, the most powerful. They’ve made such a positive difference to my life that I’ll never stop using them.

Each of the mantras is illustrated with one of my paintings and has accompanying text explaining the mantra’s importance and relevance.

Try them for yourself and feel the difference

Mantras are meant to be used regularly in order to work best. But luckily, you can use them anywhere and they take only a little time. You don’t even need to say them aloud.

So try the 10 powerful relationship mantras for yourself and tell me what you think – just click on the box below.

Perhaps you have some favourite relationship mantras of your own? If you have, I’d love to hear from you.

PS. When you sign up for your mantras, you’ll also get 25% off your first purchase in my web shop plus a regular-ish newsletter. Your contact details will, hand on heart, always remain private and won’t be shared with anyone else. That’s a promise.

How to stop feeling like a victim in your life

victim mentality

Do you sometimes or often feel like a victim in your life? Well, you if you do, you are certainly not alone.

Feeling like a victim is all to do with our state of mind – our mentality. We think of ourselves as victims, and our thoughts become our feelings and our actions.

When you have a victim mentality you feel as though you cannot succeed no matter how hard you try and that everything and everyone is against you. Feeling like this can be very frustrating as it keeps you stuck.

You feel trapped and helpless and believe you have no control over your life. Your thinking patterns are likely to be negative and very pessimistic. There is also a strong chance that self-pity and sadness are familiar features of your life.

The “benefits” of having a victim mindset

Believe it or not, having a victim mindset is attractive to some people because they believe it holds several benefits, such as:

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How social media harms your relationships

social media harms relationships

Whenever I visit family and friends in the UK, I like to do a digital detox. No internet, no social media, no emails. Bliss.

I’ve found it so beneficial that I often have a mini detox most weekends too.

My detoxes always make me realise that our digital devices can be a tad too intrusive in our lives. Sure, they can help us reach out to a massive amount of people and open up worlds of information, but they also eat into a lot of time as well. Hours can be lost on Facebook or Twitter if we’re not careful.

I know that social media helps us to connect with people, but it can also severely affect our day-to-day connection with the people closest to us.

Looking at our phones instead of talking to each other

How often have you seen people sitting at a restaurant table together or in a bar completely focused on checking their phones rather than talking to one another? How many couples feel ignored because their partners are engrossed in something on their iPad or laptop? How many of your friends on Facebook are actual friends? Probably less than half? Maybe not even that many?

Isn’t it all a bit, well, crazy?

Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE the internet. I love being able to easily keep in touch with my friends in other countries. I love how it helps me do my job. It offers a wealth of knowledge and information. But most technology has a down side and in the case of social media, there’s a dark side too.

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The best Christmas gift you can give yourself

The best Christmas gift you can give yourself by K.J. Hutchings

Christmas is traditionally a time for family and friends, but it should also be a time for you too.

Give yourself an important gift that costs nothing but is nonetheless precious: a little time to quietly reflect back on the year that’s nearly over and think about the year that is soon to come.

Perhaps 2015 was a hard year for you because you suffered a loss, whether bereavement, the loss of love, security, health or money. Whatever your loss, I want to share with you some Christmas love and blessings, and wishes for a better year to come.

And perhaps you feel you didn’t achieve all you wanted this year. If you feel disappointed you didn’t achieve more, you’re not alone. I feel the same too, as do many others. But know this: what you have done has laid the foundations for the fruition of your plans. Remember:

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What it really means to be fearless in life – and love

What it really means to be fearless in life and love by K.J. Hutchings

I was very honoured to be a prize winner in the Serious Bloggers Only Autumn 2015 blog writing competition, especially considering this blog is relatively new. You’ll find me under the category of “Most Fearless writer” for my blog post What to do when your partner is still close to their ex, without seeming crazy or jealous.

Fearless? Moi? It got me thinking. What does it really mean to be fearless?

What do you think of when you imagine fearlessness? Do you picture an Indiana Jones type swashbuckling their way through life without a smidgen of fear or self-doubt? I’m guessing you probably don’t picture yourself like that. I don’t picture myself as “fearless” either.

Why we can never truly be fearless

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