What to do when your partner is still close to their ex, without seeming crazy or jealous

two hearts joined

It’s okay to admit it. It doesn’t make you a bad person if you don’t like how close your partner is to their ex.

It makes you normal. Very normal.

Of course you’re uncomfortable about how close they are. Of course you feel insecure. They used to be what you and your partner are now. A couple. In love with each other. Intimate on all levels.

Now, before I go any further, it’s important to state that some people do get on far better as platonic friends than romantic partners and would never ever want to resume their past relationship. And if there are kids involved, friendship is surely a good thing, right? After all, the kids have suffered enough pain due to the separation; if their parents are on good terms and behaving in a mature way it makes life easier for them.

What I’m talking about is the sort of closeness between ex-partners that threatens their current relationships. Closeness that takes focus and energy away from the current relationship, so it’s a major distraction. Closeness that erodes the trust, respect and security in the current relationship.

Read moreWhat to do when your partner is still close to their ex, without seeming crazy or jealous

How to improve your relationship with the negative people in your life

Regret by K.J. Hutchings

The saying goes that money makes the world go round, but that’s not true.

It’s our relationships.

How we relate to other people and how they relate to us keeps our world spinning round. When things go well, all’s right with our world. When things go badly, it can feel as though our world has ended.

And that’s why your relationships will always be the most important thing in your life, and why it serves you well to have the best possible relationship with others, and yourself, and improve the connection you have with the less-than-positive people in your life.

We probably all have negative people in our lives – those who criticize us, complain about us, belittle us and say or do cruel things. They can be the closest to us, people we have known all our lives. That makes their negativity harder to escape and harder to endure.

Read moreHow to improve your relationship with the negative people in your life

Why you should believe in the life-changing power of serendipity

Bloom by K.J. Hutchings

Do you believe in serendipity? You know, fortunate accidents, where something unexpected happens that changes your life. An event you never saw coming but end up feeling very glad it did. You can call it coincidence or a fluke, if you like – it’s the same thing.

Serendipity often plays a big part in our relationships.  We meet new people all the time, but what makes one person stay in our lives while another is transient, simply passing through?

Is it simply serendipity (right place, right time) or are we, on a deeper level, attracting that person or event to us so it’s more like destiny, fate, something that was “meant to be”? It’s hard to say, although you’re probably familiar with the law of attraction and the part it can play in all aspects of our lives, especially our relationships.

Fluke or Fate? It doesn’t matter. It’s what you do with it that counts

Read moreWhy you should believe in the life-changing power of serendipity