Be thankful for all your exes

Be thankful for your past relationships

If you feel like you gave your love to the “wrong” person or people because you thought they were The One, don’t feel sad it didn’t work out.

Don’t regret the time you spent with them. You learned valuable lessons, not just about relationships, but about yourself too. Each person helped you to grow.

Your “wrong” relationships are simply steps leading you to greater self-awareness, love, and your life partner. Be thankful for them, because without them you wouldn’t be who you are today.

Real love doesn’t hurt

All your relationships, good and bad, past and present, teach you valuable lessons. The bad teach you what love isn’t and the good teach you what love is. It’s vital to learn the difference between the two. Real love doesn’t hurt.

How to open your heart to others (even if you’ve been badly hurt in the past)

Don't be afraid to open your heart

We all too often think that we should protect ourselves from the possibility of getting hurt. Most of us have been hurt in the past and a common reaction to the pain of being hurt by someone else is to close off our hearts.

We mistakenly think that closing our hearts and guarding our feelings protect us from further pain. We mistakenly think it strengthens us and gives us control over what happens to us.

The problem is the opposite happens.

A closed heart = a closed life

When you close your heart, you close yourself off not only from the world, but also from yourself. A closed heart can leave life devoid of joy, love and compassion, and possibilities. It becomes a fearful heart. It actually attracts negative situations and people, it does not avert them.

There are, of course, certain people (and situations) you should protect yourself from, but not everyone you meet. A closed heart takes a lot of (negative) energy to maintain. It’s draining. You’re constantly on guard waiting trouble, waiting for someone to try to step on your toes. Your life becomes dictated by painful past events to the detriment of your present moments.

Plus a closed heart means you treat yourself with less love, trust and compassion too. You end up being incredibly hard on yourself.

A closed heart = negative energy

A closed heart has also soaked up the bad energy from the memories you replay over and over about the betrayal or rejection or pain inflicted upon you. You literally lock that pain inside your heart, thinking you are protecting yourself when really you are hurting yourself.

The only way to solve that problem – and let go of your pain – is to open your heart.

How to open your heart

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10 powerful relationship mantras – free e-booklet

Would you like a simple technique that has the power to not only improve your relationship with your partner and loved ones, but also strengthen your self-esteem and wellbeing?

Then this free e-booklet containing 10 life-changing mantras is for you.

What is a mantra?

A mantra is a phrase or word that is repeated regularly to focus the mind. It states a belief and can be used like an affirmation – a positive, loving inner voice that helps to prevent negative self-talk.

We all have a “monkey mind” that jumps from one thought to another and sometimes feels like it’s racing at 100 mph. A mantra is a great way to calm the mind down.

An illustrated e-booklet of especially-chosen relationship mantras

In our busy lives (and monkey minds), we can often lose sight of the things that matter most – our relationships with our loved ones, and ourselves.

I wanted a simple and effective way to re-centre myself and remember how important my relationships are to me, as well as strengthen my self-esteem.

Heartfulness meditation helps me a lot, but I also wanted something I could do anywhere and quickly. So, I set about writing down and using some mantras.

The mantras in this e-booklet are my top 10 personal favourites and, in my opinion, the most powerful. They’ve made such a positive difference to my life that I’ll never stop using them.

Each of the mantras is illustrated with one of my paintings and has accompanying text explaining the mantra’s importance and relevance.

Try them for yourself and feel the difference

Mantras are meant to be used regularly in order to work best. But luckily, you can use them anywhere and they take only a little time. You don’t even need to say them aloud.

So try the 10 powerful relationship mantras for yourself and tell me what you think – just click on the box below.

Perhaps you have some favourite relationship mantras of your own? If you have, I’d love to hear from you.

PS. When you sign up for your mantras, you’ll also get 25% off your first purchase in my web shop plus a regular-ish newsletter. Your contact details will, hand on heart, always remain private and won’t be shared with anyone else. That’s a promise.

Get yourself out of a rut in 3 simple steps

We all find ourselves stuck in a rut from time to time. Perhaps you feel life is passing you by and nothing is exciting or new anymore. You feel bored and lifeless and lack motivation.

You start to think negatively about a lot of things, including yourself and your relationships. There doesn’t seem to be anything to look forward to. Life is just blah.

Feeling stuck in a rut is certainly no fun but luckily there are three simple ways in which to get out of that rut fast and start feeling happier again.

Step One

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